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Ignorance is ignorance no matter what. Writing things that have no forethought, ethics or respect is wrong no matter what you believe in. When we become divisive rather than cohesive it just opens the doors to extremes.

All true religions believe in god. People can choose not to believe in god.  That is their choice. I don’t know why they would want to but again, that is their choice.  I suspect one of two things happened to them.  They had lousy teachers on the subject, which I have wrote extensively on. Or two, people who they have come in contact with have shoved religion down their throat so learning about God’s teachings was a painful, rather than a joyous, experience.

The only thing we know about god is that he is omnipotent, all knowing and that we can’t understand all that he does.  Since god knows everything he must have wanted all religions to exist as long as they follow his teachings.  There is plenty of great empowering messages from god we can teach and if we just focus on them it will take us our entire life to live up to those standards.

Although, I really enjoy Bill O’reilly most of the time, there are times when I can really understand  the anger toward him.  A couple of weeks ago, he had on a young woman of about 20 on his show.  She was there to tell about the horrible experience that happened to her.  She went to the Castro  area of San Francisco with a group and marched up and down letting all the gay people know that they can be healed of their sicknes by just finding God.  First off,  for those of you who don’t know, Castro st. is probably the center of gay living in the world.  It is a place where gay people choose to live so they won’t be ridiculed and attacked.  I imagine it is one of the safest places to live in almost any city in any country.  Not just for gays.  Many straight people also live there.  I lived there myself for a period of time and I’m not gay.   What happened was someone go so upset about the group they grabbed her bible and hit her with it.  The girl went on to say she didn’t  press charges but did call the police and Bill feigned outrage that the guy wasn’t arrested.

So here’s my point.  I believe in God.  I need God in my life like I need air.  When I don’t spend enought time praying to God and studying the bible I find myself weakening spiritually.  I wish I could help more people find the joy and peace I’ve discovered since coming back to him.  But to make other people miserable so I can go on a mission is just wrong.  How does a 20 year old get the idea to go to the Castro of all places and do that.  If that girl and her group spent the same amount of effort explaining how much joy she has found in God and do it well with out all that judgement and opinions her results would have been 1000 fold better.  People, like her group ran the inquisiton  and burned witches in Salem.  Bill O’reilly knew better but he just created a lot of anger.  How did that make the world a better place.

Don’t teach your children to hurt others and tell yourself you didn’t know.  Let God do the judging.  He is your savior not you.

In closing, maybe everyone can just take a breath and live the teachings, not act like we know everything.  Happy holidays,

Dr. Robert.  Takebackthehome.com.

I am sitting here this morning and realizing how completely out of order , our nation and I suspect the world is.  I went to bring some turkeys to the local food bank last wednesday morning and they were so excited that I was bringing them.  I thought there would be lines of people getting ready to donate for the holidays.  As of 8:30 am no one had come.  They were so thankful to me.  Of course, I felt great for the giving, but then they asked me what made me bring them.  I told them I thought this year would be extra hard so I wanted to do something.  I asked if a lot of people brought food and they said no.  They got a lot of calls but typically there isn’t a lot of follow through.  This really got me to thinking.

Many Americans are waiting for the government to play their role to fix our problems. We are waiting for this miracle cure from them.  I sat in astonishment listening to people tell me how the republicans screwed everything up and how we needed a change and how Obama would be the face of that change.  I kept listening to how he was going to be doing things differently and now am watching him fill his cabinet with mostly Bill Clinton cabinet people.  This got me thinking on two things; the first being aren’t people pissed off that it is more of the same, (not the big change as promised), and the second being, if it is more of the same… has America got a case of ADD?  Before the election, change was seen as so critical that we didn’t care what the change would be.  Hence, no one cared that we were willing to elect a man, who during the primaries, people in his own party thought was too inexperienced to be president.  Then when he doesn’t do anything new we don’t care anyway.  Probably, in the not to distant future those same people will be complaining that government didn’t fix their problem. It’s unbelievable!

The aim of this article is not to whine that Obama won.  The aim is to make people realize that the government was elected by us, and  because of corruption in both parties we were screwed.  We can’t come to any other conclusion except that.  Furthermore, the only solution for us is for your own family to take responsibility for your problems.  Government is the worst  reflection of us.  Their selling us out at every level it is a reflection of a lack of integrity that is pervasive in our society.  So if we are waiting for them to solve our problems  we can’t possibly recover.  People listen, government’s only job should be to protect us from evil entities like the leaders in Iran, Russia and Venezuela and to keep ethics high in business by writing good laws that protect consumers and prosecuting people who break those laws.  That includes people within the government.  So since they can’t be counted on to protect us from corruption we just need to be sure they stop spending our money, that we work so hard for.  Our goal, then, for government is to stop reflecting the worst of us and start to reflect the best of us.

How do we get the government to reflect the best of us? Its a trick question.  They never will.  But, here’s the thing.  If we, in our own family, start to behave with a higher level of ethics society will reflect that.  The candidates who rise from a more ethical society will be a product of that better society and hence will be a better government.

How do we begin? If you’ve read some of the previous blogs on parenting or have taken some of our courses or heard a Dr. Robert lecture you will already have a framework with which to proceed.

Lets create some basic steps to live by.  Go to church, synagogue, temple, mosque on a frequent basis.  For you non g-d believing people (I don’t know why you would want to be but that’s your choice), you have a harder path to tread.  Notice, I say go to your place of worship frequently.  Why frequently?  Because you are who you hang out with.  If most people you know go you will go more and it will just be a part of your life.  When you go, focus on the higher power, not on socializing, not on how you have to save others.  This will go against what many of you believe.  But listen to this; G-d is all knowing, all powerful and we can’t know why he does what he does.  What we can definitely know is that G-d gave us teachings of how to live our lives, how to treat others and how to behave in society.  Find ways to find commonality with other groups, not divisive points.  People only follow by example, not by preaching.  You will know you are becoming this higher self by the people you find attracted to you.  I warn you though, going on the weekend to services and then having an affair, or gossiping about others or doing unethical things at work or watching others do unethical things during the week is at best a one step forward-one step backward endeavor.  Remember, our kids are always watching us.  We may not be able to affect how someone in the next city is behaving but we can always be a guiding light in our own family.  Be appreciative whenever the opportunity arises.  Appreciation opportunities are arising constantly if you are looking for them.  Be giving.  Live with the concept of abundance, not shortage.  This means others don’t have to lose in order for you to win.  Look for the win-win,  not the win-lose or compromise solution.  No one is ever happy with compromise. In short,

STEPS TO HIGHER ETHICS IN THE FAMILY

1) Be the beacon of light.

2) Be appreciative.

3) Acknowledge others for their actions, (verbally and physically), often.

4) Find ways to find commonality,not differences.

5) Don’t complain without first looking for a solution.

6) In a tough situation, think, what is the best thing I can do right now.

In closing, your family is the answer to the nation’s recovery so be part of the solution and not the problem.  On a regular basis, be the best you.  Vote for people who are the most ethical.  Be abundant.

Cheers, Dr. Robert